Good Question: Are there any faithful men left?

I am the only one of my girlfriends who is not presently either married, in a romantic relationship, or shamefully, both. LOL And yet they always want my opinion on matters of the heart, sex and the like. I have noooo idea why. I’m so not the expert. Now if you wanna have a bashing fest and talk about the shyt we’ve been thru, I can do that all day. LOL. Kidding.

So a girlfriend and I had a martinis and Blockbuster night the other weekend and got to complaining chatting. Her man of two years just got caught – again – pants around his ankles. Argh. I wish he would get it together. So anyway, she looks at me and, serious as a heart attack, poses the question:

“Are there any faithful men left? Damn!”

My response: “Were there ever?” We got a little chuckle, but really, have men ever been faithful?

I’m gonna go out on a limb and say. Um. No. Do I sound like a bitter, jilted bitch? I’m not a man hater, honest. Love the d*ck, actually. Lol. But let’s be real, they’re not like us.

As women, we’re the mothers of the earth. We birth babies, breast feed, nurture and rear the children. .. Men, historically have been the hunters and the gatherers. They go out, work, make the kill and drag it home for the little lady to fry up. Call me an old fashioned traditionalist, but it’s not my design.

I’m something of a Freudian thinker. Call me crazy, but I’m inclined to believe that one of our most innate drives is a sexual one, the force to continue the human race and to procreate.

In short, it’s unnatural for a man to only be with one woman forever. We are not naturally monogamous beings. Now with that being said, everything that comes naturally isn’t right. Jeaousy, greed, murderous thoughts, vengefulness, lust … all those things are natural, too, but can we agree that they’re not all good? Okay. And for you spirituals out there, Jesus said he came to help us defy our own nature. Hmmm.

So being faithful is not easy, but men are a different case. It is especially not easy for them. But that doesn’t mean that a man who commits himself to a woman shouldn’t strive for fidelity, he absolutely should. But we, ladies, should also try to recognize that the monogamy is something like a constant battle for them, not so much for us, and the conviction he’s made is an unnatural one that pits him against one of the strongest and most natural urges he has. And it’s that way for a reason. Gotta keep the universe turning.

But for real, my girl’s man? This dude has been caught like five times. Admittedly I was on his team the first time and I even understood when she went back the second time, but five times? C’mon man. Your gender only gets you so much of a pass. Time to let it go.

So what say y’all? Are sexual urges any more difficult for a man to supress than a woman? Weigh in on the sidebar survey ------->

-- Mel